Too Shy To Date? 6 Easy Ways To Build Your Dating Confidence

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Does the thought of meeting new people make you nervous?  Not just where to meet them but how to actually get comfortable and talk to people that you like? Here are 6 easy ways that you can get started building your dating confidence.


Visualization is used by successful people in all areas of life, from CEO’s to professional athletes because it works. Before you engage in any activity take time to imagine the best possible outcome. Don’t get caught up in overthinking things or worrying over past mistakes. Get yourself centered and start from a place of now. You are in control of your experiences, choose a positive mind set and don’t let past or future fears hold you back.

Practice Makes Perfect

Ease your anxiety by making conversation with others a daily practice. As you go along in your day make it a point to interact with others. Getting your coffee in the morning, working out or walking your dog in the park are all opportunities to create little conversations. Start with simple topics, say Hi, comment on the weather, what type of coffee the person has etc. The more you put this into practice the more natural it becomes.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Sometimes it’s easier to come out of your shell when you change your environment. Shake up your routines, try getting your coffee at a different place one morning, exploring a new neighborhood or grabbing a drink at bar by yourself one day after work.

Get Active

Take steps to developing a new skill set. Is there something you’ve always wanted to learn but have put off? It could be anything from a new language, taking a life drawing class, or learning how to play guitar. Whatever that thing is that you have been thinking about doing, do it. Not only can you feel proud of your accomplishments, you might make a great connection in the class.

Say Yes Challenge

Sometimes it’s easy to get stuck in our work / home routine. But that isn’t doing you any favors, only enforcing the feelings you already have. For the next 3 months take the “Say Yes Challenge” and commit to going to everything that you are invited to.

Be Kind To Yourself

You are not alone, at one time or another, we’ve all experienced similar fears while dating. Practice makes perfect and the only way to actually change your life is to take action and do something different. You can’t control everything that happens but you can accept yourself and in the end enjoy the process.

Have you ever struggled with dating anxiety? What helped you overcome it? I would love to hear your experiences, leave a comment in section below.

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